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ioblomov 4 days ago [-]
https://archive.ph/AjiWY
sans_souse 7 hours ago [-]
I'm surprised at the general tone of response here towards the subject of poker overall (I didn't read the article yet so perhaps something more is in the context, but all the same); I understand there are many in the poker world even regarding the most successful of whom are regarded as living a degenerate lifestyle, but being that I was previously in that world myself and was not a degenerate type; I never gambled outside of "my game" that I had an edge in, I learned and implemented proper bankroll management and I studied the game on fundamental levels and on up, progressing into the meta-psyche game that is NL heads-up.

Which brings me to my point which is that while some forms of poker have proven "beatable" by ai, certain forms ie; short-handed tables of NL Holdem, increase in perpexlity to a point where, in heads-up, there are too many variables at play both "physically" (the cards and corresponding hand ranks) and metaphysically (the story being implied thru the route of actions taken at each street from preflop, flop, turn, to river) for there to exist some perfect approach against a skilled player.

NL Holdem poker is absolutely a game of skill with an element of variance aka luck/lack-there-of.

marksimi 2 minutes ago [-]
Also used to be in that world and identify similarly in terms of my lack of love for gambling.

I'd suggest that you're empirically incorrect in saying that there is no perfect approach against a skilled player (6handed games which often reduce to a single heads-up interactions by showdown):

1. we know that a Nash equilibrium exists for every two-player zero-sum game such that it’s mathematically unexploitable

2. Pluribus approximated the Nash well enough (didn’t have to search over 10^161 possibilities) to crush high stakes skilled player over a good run of hands

schwartzworld 1 hours ago [-]
> NL Holdem poker is absolutely a game of skill with an element of variance aka luck/lack-there-of.

I’ve played a lot of Holdem, and I’m not sure I agree. A lot of what passes for skill is just an innate understanding of the odds.

John Scarne writes about gambling that a good bet isn’t one you are likely to win, but one where the payout is enough to be worth the risk. The best players know the odds of pulling a straight and can do math to figure out if it’s worth chasing one.

marksimi 18 minutes ago [-]
You're not wrong that knowing the odds is a component of the skill, but to suggest that skill in poker stops there is minimizing many of the advanced aspects that require playing at a higher level (information management, assessing a player's likely range, determining the equity of a player's range with cards to come, realizing when your or their range is capped, etc)
cluckindan 1 hours ago [-]
Also known as Expected Value (EV), as in, how much is in the pot right now compared to how much you’re betting/calling, usually compared to how likely you are to win a hand using the cards you’re holding.

That works well for limit games, where you can’t bet more than a set amount (in relation to the blinds or the current pot), especially when there are multiple people at the table, and you’re in an advantageous late position so others act before you do.

In high-stakes no-limit heads-up (1v1) play, the cards you’re holding matter less, especially before the flop. EV and pot odds are almost useless except for gauging when to bluff / if you’re being bluffed. Hands rarely end in a showdown as opposed to one of the players folding. The hands that do are essentially coin-flips, with both players holding what they believe are strong hands.

blitzar 5 hours ago [-]
The teachings from the games of gambling, probability etc is a valuable life skill that far too few people have.

I reccomend:

Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts Hardcover – 6 Feb. 2018 by Annie Duke

Or listen to any of the podcasts she did when promoting the book - Peter Attia or Masters of Business are the two I presonally consumed at that time.

PaulRobinson 6 hours ago [-]
I mention this in threads/replies below:

It's a warped puritanism.

I agree with everything you've said, and I think we'd have better politics, economics, human relationships and fun, if more people got their heads out of their posteriors and actually understood poker more.

Muvasa 4 hours ago [-]
It's kinda disgusting that people have such a visceral reaction.
mettamage 6 hours ago [-]
Hey I've started playing poker occasionally again, wanna have a chat about poker? My email is in my profile.

I used to be a winning player at small stakes about 20 years ago, so nothing major but enough for me to show that it's a game of skill.

But yea, for anyone interested why poker is a game of skill, it's due to the law of large numbers. You can easily see the law kick into effect when you simulate a dice roll and you win from 1 to 4 and the other wins 5 to 6 and you both get $1 if you win. I recently had to explain this concept so I happen to have the JS still lying around in my Chrome console.

  const rolls = 10_000;
  let a = 0;
  let b = 0;
  
  for (let i = 0; i < rolls; i++) {
    const die = Math.ceil(Math.random() * 6); // 1–6
    if (die <= 4) a++;
    else b++;
  }
  
  console.log(`Player A wins: $${a}`);
  console.log(`Player B wins: $${b}`);
  console.log(`Total paid out: $${a + b}`);
  console.log(`A's edge per game: ${(a - b) / rolls}`);
  console.log(`Difference: ${(a - b)}`);
kqr 57 minutes ago [-]
Poker has much, much higher variance than dice though (or weighted coins, which is what you're actually modeling). It takes hundreds of thousands of hands to establish a statistically significant win rate.

At a common online pace of 1.5 hands per minute (live games are much slower) that's over a thousand hours of playing. I.e. even if playing for one hour every day, it takes years before a player knows whether they're profitable or not.

Seems disingenious to compare to dice when you presumably know poker belongs to that class of distributions to which the central limit theorem applies very slowly.

internet_points 5 hours ago [-]
> I'm surprised at the general tone of response here towards the subject of poker overall [...] regarded as living a degenerate lifestyle

Maybe the people who are negative have read to the end of the article where we are let into the not-so-hidden agenda of the parent: Teach the kids to hustle their way through college so they can become a market speculator.

cillian64 5 hours ago [-]
Matt Levine is “known for his humorous, witty, deadpan writing style” - I’m pretty sure that’s a joke.
tasuki 4 hours ago [-]
I think it was at least partially joke. The author writes a popular newsletter called "Money Stuff", which is about weird things in the finance world.
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ZunarJ5 8 minutes ago [-]
Teach them two and you've got a game of Hold 'Em.

I learned watching my grandfather play with his buddies every week. Never bet real money on it, but I love sweeping house with friends and buying the pizza. :)

bobbiechen 11 hours ago [-]
I like this. Most people try to teach card games by listing every rule, but it's much easier to play a simpler version then add in new rules.

I play the Chinese card game Zhao Peng You (Finding Friends, part of the Sheng Ji family of games https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheng_ji), which is a trick taking game with a trump suit that changes between games, a trump number that changes between games, and a team selection mechanic rather than fixed teams. It's insanely hard to learn everything at once, so we usually start new people with fixed teams and trumps just to get the feel of a team-based trick-taking game, before adding in the complications.

Muvasa 4 hours ago [-]
A lot of starcraft players transitioned to Poker. Because both games require decision making in a system with incomplete information(like real life). That's why parents should teach their kids how to play poker. Otherwise they risk going by in life without critical cognitive skills.
AtlasBarfed 3 hours ago [-]
Yeah, the only way to learn those skills is to engage in a degenerate gambling pastime, that is a gateway to many other degenerate gambling pastimes.

This entire thread is exactly like arguing with weed smokers on Reddit/r/trees.

Nemi 55 minutes ago [-]
This is so overly simplified. There are many things in life that require you to make decisions with incomplete information. E.g., Business decisions and investment decisions. Not learning how to properly make decisions with incomplete information keeps you relegated to simply being an employee without the opportunity to vastly change one's own circumstances in life.

If you listen to a person describe the way to play as a Tight Aggressive poker player, you will see that the message parallels what Warren Buffett says about Value Investing.

handoflixue 2 hours ago [-]
If you think "Starcraft" is a degenerate gambling pastime, you might want to consider that your standards do not align with 99% of the people you're hanging out with here.

Equally, if you consider weed a degenerate pleasure to begin with, then of course you're going to disagree with teenagers going "hehehe, look at my first bong!!"

mna_ 4 hours ago [-]
Start your kids onto the path of gambling? No thanks. Better to teach them chess, xiangqi, shogi or go/baduk.
gwd 4 hours ago [-]
Life is full of uncertainty. Learning to take calculated risks, where most attempts fail but a few ones pay off big, is an important life skill. Reading other people's behavior to infer hidden information is another one -- Jane Street apparently used to have people learn poker to learn how to infer hidden information from the behavior of other people buying and selling stocks, but invented their own game (https://www.figgie.com/) to teach the same skills more efficiently.

ETA: I would say, when poker is taught correctly, it should discourage anyone from the sorts of gambling which are problematic:

Problem 1: Wasting your money in situations where the odds are "with the house". This would include playing slot machines or basically anything at a casino, the lottery, or even 50/50 raffles (although I can see an exception for the last one).

Poker should teach you to only take bets where the expected value (value of winning * prob winning) is greater than the cost, which is not true in the above examples.

Problem 2: Getting sucked into betting more and more to make up what you've already lost. One aspect of long-term poker should be teaching you is how to manage this effectively.

nkrisc 3 hours ago [-]
That’s funny. I’ve played poker but I’ve never gambled a cent in my life. How does that work? Oh yeah, we played poker with plastic chips not backed by any money. We just played for fun.
telesilla 1 hours ago [-]
Likewise, never gambled once even when exposed to the possibility, but I love a good game of poker or blackjack, it's fun for the mind and it's sociable. Our maths teacher a few decades ago used roulette and other games to teach us about statistics, we all loved it and it engaged the entire class, a bonus for slower maths learners. Today I suppose it's not allowed in the classroom?
AtlasBarfed 3 hours ago [-]
Gambling is a huge addiction problem. Your comment is like saying someone that occasionally smokes cocaine isn't addicted so cocaine isn't addictive.
nkrisc 2 hours ago [-]
We weren’t gambling. Nobody won or lost anything.
thoroughburro 60 minutes ago [-]
What were the chips for, then? How did you determine a result to the session?
nkrisc 14 minutes ago [-]
The chips were to determine the winner of the game. Then when the game was over we put all the chips back. The winner walked away with nothing more than what they arrived with. The losers walked away with exactly what they arrived with.

If you think getting to say “I won” is gambling, then we have nothing to discuss.

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bondarchuk 27 minutes ago [-]
By that measure playing Monopoly is gambling.
jiminymcmoogley 2 hours ago [-]
I think a more apt comparison might be that it's like saying an actor who has played roles which involve them pretending to snort cocaine isn't addicted so acting in roles that involve the portrayal of drug use isn't addictive.
ta1243 2 hours ago [-]
Are they gambling then there is no win or lose?
_diyar 4 hours ago [-]
You can also use it to teach about the risk of gambling and simple probabilities. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
blitzar 4 hours ago [-]
Europeans with their sip of wine for kids seems to have a very different outcome to the puritanical US attitude to alcohol and ban until old age.
yorwba 3 hours ago [-]
Different in the sense that they consume more alcohol? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_alcohol_c... That it is legal for children to drink under parental supervision also doesn't necessarily mean that parents will allow it, so the legal situation isn't necessarily the deciding factor.
RugnirViking 3 hours ago [-]
For what it's worth, in both Denmark and the UK, my experience has been that children are indeed allowed it on occasion, often celebrations like Christmas where they will have something like bucks fizz or a little cider or something alongside the adults.
kqr 37 minutes ago [-]
Right, and this leads to greater consumption in life. This has been studied. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S03064...
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coderintherye 11 hours ago [-]
Blind Man's Bluff is a great variant: Give everyone a card face-down, they put it on their forehead without looking at it. Bet based on whether or not you think the card on your forehead is higher than other people's. More fun in my opinion.
mrexroad 11 hours ago [-]
Article footnote mentions this with the caveat that it requires some dexterity that young children may find challenging. That aside, I think the two games make a great complementary pair and switching between provides a nice contrast for kids.
bombcar 58 minutes ago [-]
You play normal one card poker until the kids realize the benefit of seeing other player’s cards - then you play blind man’s and learn that incomplete information can go the other way.
nielsbot 10 hours ago [-]
I suppose you can simply hold your card in your hands with the back facing you. Or use some kind of vertical holder.
entropic88 9 hours ago [-]
Like.. a headband?
Etheryte 4 hours ago [-]
We need venture capitalists to fund the next game-changing vertical holder market disruptor.
prawn 7 hours ago [-]
I taught our youngest Monopoly Deal with similar simplification: removed all but properties, birthday and debt collector/etc. Then added property stealing/swapping. Then rent. It was very effective in getting her quickly up to speed.
gwd 4 hours ago [-]
So hang on, you play with just properties and simple cards; so in this simplified version of the game, you're mainly just trying to collect sets?
prawn 4 hours ago [-]
Yes, first step is teaching set collection. Then teach tactics that involve the other players’ sets. Then the full disaster. Easier than explaining rent to 4-5yo from the start.
gwd 4 hours ago [-]
I mean, especially rent that occurs on random times and random properties that you have no way of avoiding. :-D
ljf 7 hours ago [-]
After my kids fell in love Uno (in all it's versions) - I got them Monopoly Deal and Monopoly Bid - and I have to say they are both brilliant and fun games in their own right and very different to each other.

We then got the Cludo card games and were equally impressed.

tetromino_ 11 hours ago [-]
I have always been mystified by the popularity of poker. To me, it is an unpleasant game.

First - the fact that it's played for real money. If I win, I feel like a common swindler stealing money that someone could use to pay their bills or buy something nice for themselves. If I lose, I feel like a swindler's victim. And if the people around the table happen to be my friends - why would I ever wish to victimize them, or ruin their image in my mind by watching them victimize others?

Second - the lack of information. Many interesting games provide incomp9lete information of game state to the players, which one then needs to reconstruct. But with poker, the lack of information is so severe that one has no hope of reconstructing the game state - reasonable possibilities are too many to analyze, one is forced to pretty much guess and make gambles. It's an unpleasant experience.

It seems like a game for people whose brains are wired in a manner incompatible with mine. If I discover that someone likes poker, I find them rather suspicious. And people who teach poker to their own children - like the article'a author - are, to me, utterly incomprehensible.

ZoomZoomZoom 4 hours ago [-]
> Second - the lack of information. … But with poker, the lack of information is so severe that one has no hope of reconstructing the game state.

To me, full-information games feel immensely boring, they all look like a harder version of Tic-Tac-Toe that require a bigger brain. Just don't make mistakes and you're guaranteed to win. Harder games like chess just make it so incredibly expensive and attention draining that only a special kind of people get really good.

The fun part of Poker for me is exactly the psychological game of reconstructing the hidden info. Tuning your intuition when you know you still lack it is also fun and revealing.

Regarding teaching children: bluff and lies are rampant in real life. Poker teaches to take it into account and to do it yourself in a no-consequence conditions. Even if you never resort to it you need to know what it feels like to understand others.

It's the first time I've been classified as suspicious, to my knowledge. Cool.

orwin 2 hours ago [-]
I think you have a middle point between no-information and full-information, and poker isn't that.

My issue with poker is the money component, especially in cash games (I don't mind it in MTT): I think it's manipulative, basically using dopamine highs to make the game seem more interesting.

schwartzworld 1 hours ago [-]
It might depend a little on the poker variant. Holdem (the most popular variant) uses shared cards, which gives you a fair amount of information.
p1necone 11 hours ago [-]
If you ignore the externalities of winning/losing money the thing that the betting brings to poker that is very hard to replace is the impact it has on the players decision making. People playing poker with "funny money" play the game fundamentally differently to the extent it's almost a different game (arguably worse, certainly less predictable) entirely.

If you take the money out of it you have to replace it with something that matters to the players outside of the game itself for it to work.

(On the lack of information - some versions of poker are different than others but imo Texas Holdem has enough shared information that, combined with the knowledge that people really care about winning or losing informing your ability to read them based on their actions enables very strategic gameplay - the existence of a pro scene with players that consistently do well at a high level of play is evidence of this)

As another aside - I see similar complaints about strategy games that include RNG for things like attack values, and I also disagree with that criticism. I would argue that risk management is an interesting skill that's very hard to include in a game with perfect information.

pyrale 5 hours ago [-]
> If you take the money out of it you have to replace it with something that matters to the players outside of the game itself for it to work.

This claim is genuinely alien to me. I've seen people play lots of games very competitively without tying money in it. No one would seriously claim that chess hustler games are the only serious chess games, yet that claim looks oddly similar to the one made in poker. Why would poker be an exception? Is the game not interesting enough to play without it? Does the game use money to lure in a population of players that would otherwise not play? If so, is i likely that this extra population is skilled enough at the game to compete fairly?

p1necone 5 hours ago [-]
Bit of a tortured example, but imagine if in chess every time you moved your queen you had to put $1 in escrow that you only got back if you won the game - do you think you'd still make exactly the same moves, or would you maybe play a sub optimal game to avoid moving your queen as much?

And if you saw your opponent move their queen would you be more confident that they probably saw a path to victory than you would be otherwise, and would you maybe spend more time analyzing moves that required that queen move instead of what you might have analyzed instead otherwise? (analogous to bluffing in poker).

Basically the fact that there's some external factor you can use to communicate what your move might mean to other players makes the mind games/bluffing/analysis work better than if you were just playing to win. The money isn't just linked to whether you win or lose - it's actually tied to the individual mechanics in a way that affects how each round plays out.

pyrale 4 hours ago [-]
The cost/information function of moves exists in poker regardless of whether it's tied to actual money. You put your money in a hand if you believe that you have good ev, whether that ev is labeled in chips or dollars. I don't see how changing the rules of chess (therefore changing the ev - of course if you change the ev that changes players' behaviour. But that would be like changing the poker ruleset, not changing the money value of chips) makes a comparable case.

Let me give you a counter-comparison: if regardless of which chess piece was moved, after both players had made a play, they could bet on the game outcome (therefore not changing the ev of a move), I'm not sure players would want to play differently.

tasuki 4 hours ago [-]
> Is the game not interesting enough to play without it?

Yes. Poker ceases to be interesting when not played for something. Chess and most other games are certainly different in this aspect.

tom_ 4 hours ago [-]
The money is a countable resource that players are motivated to win and not to lose. The game can be played with a substitute, but it doesn't pan out the same way, because the players don't have the same relationship to other kinds of token. (Same applies to playing for pennies. The amounts have to be at least somewhat meaningful.)
pyrale 3 hours ago [-]
> (Same applies to playing for pennies. The amounts have to be at least somewhat meaningful.)

That's kind of an issue, though. Richer players are advantaged, as are seasoned players who are used to lose large amounts of money. That's not really related to game skills, since there is no way to ensure that players bet something equally valuable to them, which in your reasoning means that some players start with an advantage.

mcphage 10 hours ago [-]
> I would argue that risk management is an interesting skill that's very hard to include in a game with perfect information.

I agree with you here quite strongly.

grues-dinner 7 hours ago [-]
It's a different kind of skill that is more about predicting what your opponent will do based on the same information at which you are both looking.

Chess and go even more so are perfect information games, but there is substantial risk in strategies than can be derailed by the opponent noticing them too early or even by not noticing and ignoring bait.

kevinwang 11 hours ago [-]
A quick take:

> reasonable possibilities are too many to analyze, one is forced to pretty much guess.

You could say the same thing about chess, but an experienced player wouldn't, because they know which candidate moves are reasonable and which lines to delve into through intuition shaped by experience.

Similarly, you might say the same about poker. The possible hands your opponent has are actually quite large, but an experienced player can have a reasonable idea of the possible hands and their probabilities, which may involve eg ignoring most hands as unrealistic and bucketing hands into classes.

tetromino_ 11 hours ago [-]
> You could say the same thing about chess

No, chess is on the opposite side of the spectrum! In chess, at all times you have perfect knowledge of the entire state of the board; in poker, you know 2 cards.

sesky 9 hours ago [-]
If you consume any chess media, you would know there's a fair amount of crossover in chess players who enjoy playing poker.

That is because although chess appears to be a game of perfect information, it is impossible to calculate anything but a small fraction of possible future game states in a limited time. So skilled chess players must make educated guesses as to which lines are worth calculating, whether their opponent has already studied the current line, and what moves to play to get them out of their memorization.

This is effectively a game of limited information where solid Bayesian reasoning wins, just like poker.

cman1444 10 hours ago [-]
The point being made was that a chess player is not able to foresee all possible future combinations on a chess board (at least until close to the very end), so they must make "educated guesses" as to the best move to make.
tasuki 4 hours ago [-]
The person you're replying to was reacting to your "reasonable possibilities are too many to analyze, one is forced to pretty much guess" statement. Not about perfect/imperfect knowledge.
globular-toast 6 hours ago [-]
Not quite, in poker you know all cards except for other players' hole cards. Have you ever played variations like seven card stud which used to be popular at home until Texas hold'em became cool?

There's always some missing information but it's not quite as bad as you make out. In chess you don't know what the other player is thinking.

bawolff 9 hours ago [-]
> Second - the lack of information. Many interesting games provide incomp9lete information of game state to the players, which one then needs to reconstruct. But with poker, the lack of information is so severe that one has no hope of reconstructing the game state - reasonable possibilities are too many to analyze, one is forced to pretty much guess and make gambles. It's an unpleasant experience.

Poker is basically the same type of game as "Among us". You might have some hints but you're not supposed to be able to entirely recreate the game state. If you can, the game is boring.

chrismcb 8 hours ago [-]
"or buy something nice for themselves" like spending an evening playing a game with friends? Of you are playing against strangers, it isn't on you what someone else did with their money. As for you, you works only play with money you are willing to lose. Of course poker isn't for everyone.
emmelaich 8 hours ago [-]
It's a choice to play for money and how much. When I play with friends, there's only a $20 buy-in and no rebuys. Makes for a far cheaper night than going to a pub or movie.

As a kid (~12 year old) I played for matchsticks.

looperhacks 6 hours ago [-]
> First - the fact that it's played for real money.

Don't play for real money then. I played a lot of poker with friends, but never for money - everybody gets the same amount of chips at the start and the winner is the last man standing (i.e. the winner of the random all in once most players are out, usually)

globular-toast 6 hours ago [-]
In my experience poker completely falls apart when it's not for real money. It just doesn't seem like a very good game in the sense that people don't try to win unless there's some external benefit to winning. It sucks to play with people who don't care.
matkoniecz 1 hours ago [-]
Maybe I and my friends are overly competitive at board games, but not tying to win was not a problem for us.

Though poker and similar games were only tiny part of our games.

(except some cases where player was utterly doomed and checked out)

sapphicsnail 9 hours ago [-]
I think your 2nd reason is actually why poker is so popular. A lot of the joy of poker (at least for me) is trying to learn to read the other players. I generally play with friends and I find it emotionally intimate in a strange sort of way. Probably not for people who don't enjoy bluffing games though.

Edit: It's also a socially acceptable time to lie your ass off. Maybe it's a hit like how GTA is for some people as well.

throwaway422432 7 hours ago [-]
You might enjoy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheat_(game)

The whole point is to lie your ass off.

philipallstar 4 hours ago [-]
> And if the people around the table happen to be my friends - why would I ever wish to victimize them, or ruin their image in my mind by watching them victimize others?

No one is being victimised. Everyone's signing up to potentially lose their money. It doesn't have to be very much money to make it work well, but it generally needs to be some money.

ForestCritter 8 hours ago [-]
poker, without the money, isn't much different from any other card game. We used to play poker as a family game with a butter tub of pennies that all went back into the pot when we were done. It's very similar to rummy or bridge. Part skill part luck. Like pretty much any board game.
nkrisc 3 hours ago [-]
You don’t have to play poker for money. Whenever I played poker as a kid, or with friends, we never played for money. We just divided up the chips and played until someone won them all.
kqr 9 hours ago [-]
Add to the list that for most of the game, you're not actually playing! Even in more action packed variants like Omaha you spend a lot of time folded watching the others at the table play. (Although that does also have some of the enjoyment of playing, it's not the same.)
grues-dinner 7 hours ago [-]
Careful what you wish for! Mahjong is the opposite: you're always playing or setting up the next round, there's no down time, you can't stop paying attention even for a moment or you might miss an important tile, and you can't even skip a round for a comfort break.

Also it seems to be complex enough there is no mental space or time left to talk about anything other than the tiles. Exhausting!

AngryData 4 hours ago [-]
I didn't get that impression playing ai for 2 years. At first it was overwhelming like that but casual play after awhile seemed to leave plenty of room for conversation at even an accelerated pace. If it was like a super serious tournament I could see people trying to account for every visible tile and what it could mean though and not really talking so much.
toast0 7 hours ago [-]
> Also it seems to be complex enough there is no mental space or time left to talk about anything other than the tiles. Exhausting!

I have been lead to belive that community Mahjong is an excellent time for catching up, but then again, I've never gone and don't know how to play.

grues-dinner 6 hours ago [-]
I've only played at home and everyone announces the tiles (so an interruption every 5 seconds) so maybe that's the problem. Maybe if you're good enough at it you can do the game on autopilot while chatting? I'm always slowest even to stack the tiles at the start and that's without distractions!
tzs 9 hours ago [-]
What about other games that people play for real money where the money for the winners comes from the losers?

For example in amateur chess tournaments it is common for the prize money to come out of the entry fees. Fairly typical might be a $15 dollar entry fee in advance or $20 at the door, and a prize fund of $350 ($200 first, $100 second, $50 third) based on 30 entries. It will be lower if they get fewer entries, but let's say they get exactly 30. Then 3 players are going home with more than they came with. The other 27 are going home $15 or $20 in the hole.

Would you feel bad if you played in such a tournament and finished in the top 3? Some of the 27 losers might have had a better use for their entry fee.

kqr 9 hours ago [-]
Surely the variance of amateur chess is far lower than that of poker.
renox 5 hours ago [-]
Depends on which level of 'amateur chess', for kids there are real beginners who barely know the rules and ~1600-elo players in the same competition..
kqr 3 hours ago [-]
...and unlike in poker, the 1600 Elo players will beat the real beginners in every game. That's what I mean.
renox 6 minutes ago [-]
Ah OK, yes you're right.
PaulRobinson 6 hours ago [-]
How is it swindling if you have all agreed to play a fair game?

You do have incomplete information, but to the extent you describe it only exists within a single hand. If you play for a couple of hours, you get more information. That's the point. You're not playing the cards, you're playing the people holding them.

And that's a great allegory for life, and you can learn a lot that will help you in life in general.

As such, I find people who don't teach poker to their own children - like yourself - are, to me, utterly incomprehensible.

infecto 54 minutes ago [-]
It’s a card game that does not have to be played for money. It’s a game of risk using tokens. It’s pretty great considering you just need a deck of cards. How can people like yourself be so comfortable to openly judge others for a card game?
throwaway422432 8 hours ago [-]
Blackjack, while still a gambling game with a lot of randomness, would be a far better choice for children; particularly learning about calculating the probability of getting a card you want.
stackedinserter 2 hours ago [-]
Poker is not your thing, we got it.
mcphage 10 hours ago [-]
> reasonable possibilities are too many to analyze, one is forced to pretty much guess and make gambles. It's an unpleasant experience.

It’s okay to not like popular things, not every game is for every person. The thing you describe as unpleasant, is what some people enjoy about the game.

> It seems like a game for people whose brains are wired in a manner incompatible with mine. If I discover that someone likes poker, I find them rather suspicious.

Well, that is a good chunk of the population. Which isn’t to say it’s wrong to be suspicious of most people, but I’m not sure poker is an reliable indicator.

more_corn 14 hours ago [-]
One of the best life lessons I learned was while perusing a poker strategy book in a bookstore as a teen. I’ve never been into poker, not even sure why I picked it up. One thing it said was the most important thing to remember is that most of your hands will be crap. Don’t get attached to a bad hand and don’t convince yourself that an ok hand is a good hand. If you just fold the bad hands and play the good ones you’re already a better player than most.

I took that to heart and it has served me well in life.

tgijs 13 hours ago [-]
For me, it's "decisions, not results." Poker will teach you patience and acceptance of that which is out of your control.
thebigspacefuck 13 hours ago [-]
That just makes you a tight passive player which is not the worst kind of player to be but also not likely to win you a lot of money
btilly 13 hours ago [-]
Being a loose aggressive player is far more likely to lead to you losing a lot of money, than winning a lot of money.

Once you consider what the house earns, poker is a net negative for the players. In order for there to be some big winners, there have to be a lot of losers. And a shocking number of those losers will, thanks to our selective memories, consider themselves winning players.

owlninja 12 hours ago [-]
In popular poker you are just playing against other players, not the house.
eszed 12 hours ago [-]
Doesn't the house take a percentage of the pot ("rake", isn't it called?).

Not a poker player, just thought that was a thing.

bluGill 11 hours ago [-]
Depends on where you play. For some the house is a literal house not a casino, and thus no rake.
albedoa 12 hours ago [-]
Yes. The person you are responding to doesn't quite understand the comment they are responding to :) The rake can turn a breakeven or even winning player into a losing player. That's what we mean.
owlninja 11 hours ago [-]
Sorry, that is fair enough, he is describing a casino. I never played in Vegas during the hold 'em boom, but went to plenty of houses where there wasn't really a rake.
thebigspacefuck 11 hours ago [-]
Sure, that’s considered the worst player type to be and generally tight aggressive is considered the best strategy.

Zero-sum nature of the game aside, Meta developed an AI that wins consistently at poker, so it is possible to be good at poker and win consistently. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluribus_(poker_bot)

wileydragonfly 13 hours ago [-]
That’s it. That’s the entire strategy. I pray that the Texas Hold ‘Em fad doesn’t come back. That was an insufferable decade of hearing how clever everyone was.
cman1444 10 hours ago [-]
That's "the entire strategy" for becoming a non-beginner. Poker game theory gets much more complicated at higher levels of play.
wileydragonfly 10 hours ago [-]
Someday, I hope you share your billions of winnings with us mere peasants.
cman1444 10 hours ago [-]
Nowhere did I suggest that I am at those higher levels of play. I just know that they exist.
albedoa 13 hours ago [-]
How much did you lose?
oinfoalgo 2 hours ago [-]
I have never met a losing poker player.

That for me was the greatest life lesson from that time.

Also how there was all these poker strategy books but I don't remember a single one trying to model the strategy of the rake and how to determine if the rake made a game unbeatable. Basically, assuming all games at all levels of rake are beatable.

How convenient for the house.

wileydragonfly 10 hours ago [-]
Someday, I hope you share your billions of winnings with us mere peasants.
gwd 7 hours ago [-]
Haha, I just taught my 5-year-old "high card" poker last week. He loves it. Planning on doing a similar progression. Not sure when to stop showing the hands at the end when people fold. He's still in the place where he really hates to lose, but it didn't take him long to get the idea of "minimize losses for bad hands, maximize gains for good hands", which is the main life lesson I'd like him to take from poker.
d--b 7 hours ago [-]
Not sure I want my 4-year-old to know how to play poker though.
PaulRobinson 6 hours ago [-]
Why?

Poker is a great way to learn a lot of life lessons about human psychology, money management, strategy vs tactics, game theory, and so much more.

There is this weird protestant puritanism around so many aspects of life that confuse me. Every child is going to become an adult, but there is this attitude that they must be shielded from all adult knowledge until they're 21 as if that's helpful.

Your kid can - through game play - learn so much that will make them a more balanced, rounded, capable human than their peers. And done the right way, they're not going to end up degenerate gamblers, but quite the opposite.

tamat 5 hours ago [-]
It´s about normalizing something we think it could lead to problems.

I dont want to romanticize the game in his mind, so when he grows up people ask him to play poker and he sees it as "that nice game we played at home!".

It is a game with very strong connections with gambling. There are thousands of other games without that association which are as rewarding as poker.

philipallstar 14 minutes ago [-]
Don't let your kids enter a raffle, then.
Muvasa 4 hours ago [-]
park chess players gamble. Going to a chess tournament with a prize pool and paying an entry fee is gambling. In germany magic the gathering tournaments are banned since they are deemed as gambling.
d--b 4 hours ago [-]
Poker is a winner-take-all game, so it could be argued that it incentives kids to push their self interest first.

It's based on deception, so teaches kids to distrust others and deceive others for the sake of winning.

It gives crazy adrenaline rushes that even adults fail to control. That can't be good for the brain.

You don't seem to realize that 4-year-old is extremely young, and kids that age need security more than anything. They need to know adults have their backs and are not in it for themselves. They need to know people aren't lying to them.

Sure you need to prepare kids for the real life, but there is an age for everything, and my opinion is that 4-year-old is not a good age to learn poker, just as it's not great to put 6-year-old in front of horror movies, or give wine to 10-year-olds.

There is plenty of time to learn money management.

jedberg 6 hours ago [-]
Math skills and social skills combined?
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citizenkeen 12 hours ago [-]
I have found Skull to be a superior form of poker for people who want the game without the chip evaluation, and it teaches the same skills.
tasuki 4 hours ago [-]
The biggest advantage of Skull over poker is that it's fun even without money.
mattnewton 12 hours ago [-]
This, eliminates most of the probability math and distills it just down to the game theory and bluffing aspects. One of my favorite games.
robocat 4 days ago [-]
Training your kids how to lie convincingly to you -- what could go wrong?
striking 14 hours ago [-]
The article ends

> As a parent, I’m pleased that I’ve given her the tools to put herself through college hustling poker games, and then go work at a proprietary trading firm.

which is presumably written with the same sardonic intent as any other Matt Levine work.

jefftk 13 hours ago [-]
When my kids were maybe 6 and 4 we started playing One Night Ultimate Werewolf as a family. It very quickly became clear this was a bad choice: the oldest went from being terrible at lying (and so ~never doing it) to actually being pretty good, surprisingly quickly. As soon as we noticed this we stopped, and while she didn't go back to how she had been there was definitely much less lying and she didn't remain good at it.
DrewRWx 12 hours ago [-]
Do you think she adopted her pokerface she learned it against you or was there another reason?
jefftk 12 hours ago [-]
I think it's simpler than that: people get better at things with practice.

Werewolf isn't like poker where people typically try to conceal their emotions and leak nothing; instead you're trying to act like you're on the Villager team regardless of whether you actually are.

behringer 7 hours ago [-]
Remember, being a good liar means you can sniff out a lie too. It's not a terrible skill to teach if it can be wielded for good.

Maybe a mafia style game would be more suitable where both sides are played.

bko 13 hours ago [-]
I think it's balanced by having him or her learn skepticism, game theory, information asymmetry, and adverse selection, among other useful skills.
quantified 4 days ago [-]
It's an essential skill in life anyway, but you also teach the usual ethics and morals and come down hard on them when you catch them in a meaningful lie.

You never got away with anything as a teenager?

anitil 13 hours ago [-]
I think it's also considered a developmental milestone as lying requires a pretty sophisticated theory of mind, and an understanding of the perspective of another person
thinkingtoilet 14 hours ago [-]
Ha. I got news for you. They are going to learn that playing poker or not.
blitztime 12 hours ago [-]
I’d say bluffing in poker isn’t really lying. I mean you certainly can look at it that way, but another way to look at it is “I have good hands here more often than you do so here strategically you have to fold when I bet”
jayknight 12 hours ago [-]
The difference between a lie and a surprise is that soon everyone will know what the surprise was. A lie has the intention of concealing the truth forever.
Talanes 5 hours ago [-]
We tell plenty of lies that aren't intended to hold up forever — whether it's a lie to a stranger that you hope to be away from before the lie becomes apparent, or a lie to a acquaintance that you hope is small enough that the social friction of confronting you over it would be worse than the lie.
kqr 9 hours ago [-]
Correct, and a bluff is not intended to last forever. Bluffing is revealed eventually, because you can only have a pair of aces so often, statistically speaking.

At that point, the table awareness of the bluff is still profitable because it forces others to bet into your strong hands.

A bluff that is revealed is just as good as one kept secret. Many people seem to misunderstand this.

tasuki 4 hours ago [-]
> A lie has the intention of concealing the truth forever.

Is that a thing... in English? Or in some specific part of the world?

cman1444 10 hours ago [-]
Well I guess you better hope your kid kindly shows their hand after you fold to their shove.
bawolff 9 hours ago [-]
I'd be more concerned about encouraging gambling.

Bluffing and detecting bluffing is a useful skill as long as used morally. Sort of like learning martial arts - just because we teach kids karate doesn't mean we want them to go around beating people up.

Gambling however can very easily ruin lives and be very adicting.

kqr 8 hours ago [-]
As someone else pointed out, bluffing is not lying. Bluffing is about applying some randomness to your betting patterns to force your opponents into overbetting slightly on average.

Lying would be trying to introduce a negative correlation between hand strength and bet size; bluffing is merely removing some of the positive correlation that exists.

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TZubiri 14 hours ago [-]
It's a common misconception that poker is about lying or that you need to lie to play poker.

You can bet with a bad hand, but you don't need to say you have a good hand, if asked you can say you either have a bad hand or a good hand, without any impact to your strategy.

Lying holds no advantage in poker, you can easily play poker without lying, no correlation is intrinsic to the game or its rules, it's just a common association people make

djeastm 13 hours ago [-]
If we replace the word "lying" with "deception" does that change anything?
wrs 12 hours ago [-]
Poker players very seldom outright lie, like saying out loud "hey everybody, my hand is great!", and it's usually not just simple "deception" either.

How about "behaving in a way that increases the probability of your particular adversaries making incorrect inferences about your situation"?

bawolff 9 hours ago [-]
> How about "behaving in a way that increases the probability of your particular adversaries making incorrect inferences about your situation"?

I'd call that lying with extra steps.

(Which to be clear, im fine with in the context of a game (and in certain contexts even in real life). Plenty of sports can be traced back to ritualized ways of practising to murder people. Take all the field sports of track and field)

Talanes 8 hours ago [-]
Your definition seems like it would include the entire field of cryptography as lies, would it not?
bawolff 7 hours ago [-]
I don't think cryptography usually results in an increased probability of your adversary making incorrect inferences relative to the base case of the adversary having no information. So no, i wouldn't say so.

Maybe you can argue steganography is lying.

Regardless, i also find the idea that lying is morally wrong reductive. Morality depends on context. There are plenty of cases where being misleading is morally ok in my opinion.

Talanes 5 hours ago [-]
Why would the base state be "No cryptography, no communication, no information" and not "No cryptography, communication, information?"

If we assume a default state of avoiding engagement, the average poker player is giving away more information that could lead to correct inferences by playing than bad information by bluffing. Exactly at which point does the lie happen?

BoiledCabbage 9 hours ago [-]
So you're trying to manipulate people into believing false things about you?

Is that better or worse than calling it deception?

seizethecheese 10 hours ago [-]
I wouldn’t consider the type of deception fully within the bounds of a game the type of deception I would want to avoided teaching my kids.
TZubiri 7 hours ago [-]
or "fraud" or "misrepresentation. No, these would be synonyms.
ghostly_s 14 hours ago [-]
I’m not sure what meaningful distinction you think you're making between verbally lying and implicitly lying with your bet but it's quite tedious.
gretch 13 hours ago [-]
You inferred it, but it's not implied.

Instead of thinking of a bet as saying "I have good cards" think of it instead as "I have an advantage in this pot", which is not a lie.

In poker advantages can come from cards, or from other objective measures such as position, stack size. And of course from subjective measures like being able to read your opponent.

c22 13 hours ago [-]
If reading your opponent is a strategy that confers advantage then it stands to reason that deceiving your opponent is as well.
marksimi 33 minutes ago [-]
I feel one of the most useful skills picked up by poker that people don't explicitly speak about is managing your information effectively.

Deceiving my opponent has the connotation of this happening in one instance. After you realize that you can't convincingly deceive your opponents in poker into perpetuity, it becomes a game of managing your image —revealing the right information while being conscious of information that you shared in the past (if you're playing someone skilled or perceptive, that is).

On the flip side, what an excellent game to help people pay attention to signals, figure out how to weigh them appropriately, and appropriately act on them when the situation calls for it.

gretch 9 hours ago [-]
The original claim is that people misconceive "that poker is about lying or that you need to lie to play poker"

Just because other people may try to lie to you, does not mean that you need to lie in order to succeed.

No one said "lying can't be used at all"

TZubiri 7 hours ago [-]
My claim is a bit stronger, not only can you play without lying, but you don't sacrifice anything, you can play at top level without lying, and you gain no advantage by lying. In essence at optimal play you ignore whatever your opponent says, there is only the bets and game actions, which are independent from the cards held.
kqr 7 hours ago [-]
Skilled players read their oppononts' hands (i.e. the cards they're holding), not the opponents themselves.
cman1444 10 hours ago [-]
But one of the most common strategies is to posture as if you have a good hand even though in reality you don't. That is deception.
gretch 9 hours ago [-]
The original claim is that people misconceive "that poker is about lying or that you need to lie to play poker"

The claim is not that deception can be used as a strategy at all. That btw is actually an uninteresting claim. In almost all games, you can lie to your opponent and probably gain some advantage.

If I were coaching a beginner poker player, I would honestly tell them to play statistically sound poker. That's a good way to make a lot of money.

bawolff 9 hours ago [-]
Sure its a spectrum, but i think poker is fundamentally much more about deception than say monopoly is.
kqr 7 hours ago [-]
Only in the sense that poker is more about anything than Monopoly is!
TZubiri 7 hours ago [-]
By posture do you mean act verbally and physically? Or bet as if you had a good hand?

The first is mostly inconsequential in poker, you should avoid having tells in your posture and speak, but the goal is to avoid conveying information about your hand, not conveying false information about it to deceive.

The second is just the game itself, acting as if you had strong cards has a cost, and is not lying, when you bet you are not saying "I have a hand". In a sense you may bet with a bad hand, but you are more forcing your opponent to pay for a chance to win the pot on account of your hand potentially containing a strong hand. You are truthful in your representation of a potential strong card.

In fact if you were to bluff on a situation were you could not ever have held a strong hand, it would be a mistake, and you would stand to lose expected value.

mcphage 10 hours ago [-]
Sure—but when you say it like that, suddenly it’s not a bad skill at all to tach your children, and teach them to be wary of others using it.
Talanes 8 hours ago [-]
Yeah, it's basically the main thing I was taught to do to avoid any chance encounters with (animal) predators growing up: walk confidently and present as a fellow predator and not a prey animal.
seizethecheese 10 hours ago [-]
It’s not tedious at all. Many games have structural information asymmetry, and part of the fun is navigating this. To add an extra verbal lie is categorically different from playing within the bounds of the game
bamboozled 13 hours ago [-]
The world order is falling apart and being an intelligent person makes you a target of the "anti-elite". I think teaching kids strategy and deception has never been more important.
mcphage 9 hours ago [-]
The game the author describes sounds simple and fun, but… what about ties?
kqr 9 hours ago [-]
I'd assume regular poker rules: The pot is split.
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PaulHoule 12 hours ago [-]
Had some family come over and play Texas Hold’em with us and their kids. It was clear they were too stupid to be intimidated so there was no possibility of bluffing, instead I just folded over and over again until I had two really good cards and then would see me no matter what I bet and ai grew my bankroll that way.
sitzkrieg 12 hours ago [-]
playing poker with the following truly undermines the entire experience:

people that dont understand rules 100%

wagers with no real value (time/money/snacks)

people who dont want to play outright

calvinmorrison 12 hours ago [-]
GTO goes out the window when a drunk guy sits down with a few friends. Either you're gonna grab the pot a few times or bust because the dude went all in with dueces against your KA. he wins a flush on the river.
smnplk 7 hours ago [-]
Drunk guys are the easisest to play against. You don't need GTO, you can just play exploitatively and adjust your range against his, so that you still have big range advantige preflop. And you can lower variance and decide to not go all-in with AK preflop, but this also depends on how deep the effective stack is in a given situation.
tharkun__ 11 hours ago [-]
Sorry but that's just you being blinded by Anna Kournikova - looks great, seldom wins ;)

(no offence to any tennis aficionados - it's a Poker thing)